Making the effort to change

Successful people make a habit of doing things that unsuccessful people don’t like to do.

–Steven Covey

Change is hard; it stretches me. Sometimes it seems as if it is too complicated and too time consuming to reprogram the habits that no longer serve me.

If you have read the two most recent cruxes, then you already know and perhaps are tired of hearing about the critical role that awareness plays in accomplishing meaningful, deliberate changes. Personally, it is difficult to bridge from my incompetence with certain activities or behaviors over to competence without the help and insight of those who know me. In addition to my own intuition, I rely on inspiration from others to get me on track and willing to close key gaps in my performance.

I cannot overstate the importance of the mentors, guides and role models in my life. A host of good-hearted men and women have come alongside of me to encourage me and to nudge me to higher levels of consciousness. The debt that I owe to my legion of supporters can never be repaid.

My first adventures into the realms of meaningful competency were hard fought and mostly messy. Similar to other experiences in which I have tried things for the first time, my early efforts to build competency were awkward and ineffective. Armed with persistence and a vision of what was possible, I stayed the course and was reinvented in tangible ways. A number of these changes were manifested externally and were easy to recognize, such as:

  • I transformed my work ethic and my self talk from “What is the least that I can do to get by?” to “How can a task best reflect my true self; who I am at my core?”
  • I began honoring all of my commitments to the end…no matter what.
  • I refused to take advantage of women, friends or family when it was convenient for me or in my best interest. I resolved to cultivate the virtues of loyalty, kindness and respect.
  • I abandoned financial recklessness and materialism and I set my sights on eliminating debt and the pressure associated with keeping up with the Joneses.
  • I changed my relationship with food. Now, I view food as fuel and not fun; I recognize that it is not as much about what I am eating as it is about what is eating me.

Building other competencies involved more of an internal effort; less obvious but just as tangible. My private mastery of these internal competencies has had a multiplicative effect on what is visible.

Balance is about my feeling right in my core; it is always an inside job. The more balanced that I am, the more capacity that I have for adopting new and constructive disciplines.

There is no doubt that I can improve in innumerable ways. The genius is in focusing my efforts on building competency in the activities and behaviors that mean the most to me and to the people whom I love.

Thomas “TD” Dierker
Live like you’re dying….cause you are!

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