Trusting I Am Already There!

I honestly don’t know why blonde haired women have become the brunt of so many jokes. It has been my broad experience that being clueless often crosses every human characteristic, not just gender or hair color. Despite the fact that stupidity knows no boundary, you’d agree that some of these quick laughs are awfully funny and mostly harmless.

I chuckle whenever I hear the one in which a beautiful blonde woman is standing along the banks of a raging river. In time, she notices another blonde woman, who is clearly distressed standing directly across from her on the opposite side of the river.

The distressed woman cups her hands around her mouth and cries out to the other, “How do I get over to the other side?” Straining to hear, the first woman eventually gets the message. She thinks for a moment, cups her hands around her mouth and yells to the other, “What do you mean? You already are on the other side!”

Like the distressed woman in this anecdote, many individuals whom I know are working diligently to get to the “other side” of something. It really does not matter whether it’s their career, an important relationship or something more personal that involves their family; finances or their health, most people are striving to get to the “accomplished” side of one or more important goals or outcomes.

What if in our desperation to reach the other side, we have just been distracted from the knowledge that we are already on the other side? Our souls are shouting to us…over and over…“Don’t try so hard, in many ways you are already there!”

Achieving and the value of achievement are ingrained in us from a very early age. As a result of perceived setbacks, young people may learn to see themselves as lacking something. How could they not? The foundation of consumerism feeds on this human condition. In hindsight, I suspect that the Saturday morning cartoons that we watched as children were merely well-conceived decoys, designed in collaboration with the toy making cartel of Mattel, Hasbro, Fischer-Price and Milton-Bradley to leverage the chasm that exists between our contentment and our material acquisitions.

As we’ve grown older, the television programming has changed but its purpose has not. More sophisticated, multi-national cartels want to hold our attention long enough for us to learn more about the things that we want but that we don’t need. Each of us is tempted by the lie that we will be happy once we get ______________. Feel free to fill in the blank with whatever you choose. Regardless, when living with this mindset, we forfeit the joy that comes from knowing that no thing will fulfill us.

It has been said that the trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat. In the same way, those who die with the most toys are still dead. If we allow them to instruct us, acknowledging and understanding these familiar axioms can lead to a great reset and rescue for us. We must continually ask ourselves, “Am I consuming, or have I been consumed?”

I am a realist. The importance of discipline and hard work is not lost on me. I understand how important it is for me to deliver my very best at home and at work. But I do all of this not to get to some other side, but because I realize that I am already where I am supposed to be. It is critical for me and for each of us to detach from the notion that material achievement will improve our value as people. In this regard, we are already there.

Believing this, we can focus less this Christmas season on the “doing and having” that endlessly clamor for our attention and personal resource.

Thomas “TD” Dierker
Live like you’re dying…. cause you are!


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